Fire to Freedom

  One thing I’m learning, especially as I grow emotionally and spiritually, is that boundaries aren’t a “set it and forget it” thing. We more than often create them once and assume that everyone will automatically honor them and abide by them. We hope people will understand our limits, respect our time, and handle our hearts with care. But the truth is… some people will keep pushing, keep testing, and keep mishandling you for as long as you allow it. So, it is important that you continue to reassess your boundaries as often as you need to.  This is why reassessing your boundaries is not a sign of weakness but it’s a sign of growth. It is saying that I choose me, despite what 'they' think or see.  Life changes, relationships shift, and so do our emotional needs. The version of you that set those boundaries months or years ago is not the same version who exists today. And if we’re really honest, some of us made boundaries in seasons where we were still learning ourselves,...

  Today, I woke up grateful as I always do whenever God calls me by name and I can feel the air in my lungs.  Not because everything in my life is perfect, but because God is still good, He still reigns, still present, and still working in ways I can’t always see with my human eyes. Lately, I’ve been thinking about kindness and I’m not talking about the cute, social-media kind, but the real kind. The kind we need in this world to drown out the darkness around us.  The kind that requires patience, humbleness, grace, and sometimes forgiveness even when it’s not deserved. That’s the kind of kindness I am talking about. Kindness isn’t weakness. It’s spiritual strength. But let me be honest: For a long time, I thought my heart was a curse because it was soft, it genuinely loved and I loved even when people didn’t treat me well.  I thought that being loving, caring, generous, and gentle made me easy to hurt and there were times when it did hurt. I’ve encountered people who...

  For a long time, I lived behind a battle most people never saw, a battle with imposter syndrome . If you know anything about imposter syndrome then you know it will rob you of your destiny. Let's dig into the definition, according to Webster it is defined as  a psychological condition that is characterized by persistent doubt concerning one's abilities or accomplishments accompanied by the fear of being exposed as a fraud despite evidence of one's ongoing success. Wow, so to break it down into more simple terms, on the outside it looks like I have it all together, but feeling like I am not doing it on the inside. I knew I was called. I knew I was gifted. People affirmed it, God confirmed it, but inside I never felt “enough.” It wasn’t that I didn’t have purpose , it was that I didn’t feel worthy of the purpose I carried. So, the doubts and inner destruction became louder than what the truth really was.  Imposter syndrome is one of the enemy’s favorite weapons. Why? B...

Most people talk about healing like it’s a one-time event. A moment.  A breakthrough. A sudden shift. And yes, there are moments when life changes. When you finally let go of what hurt you. When you outgrow what drained you. When you walk away from what broke you. But nobody talks enough about the part that comes after: staying free. The process of healing.  It’s easy to celebrate the moment you stop answering a toxic call, walking away from draining people, stop returning to the old habit, stop entertaining an old pattern. But staying free requires something that isn’t beautiful and at times it hurts: Discipline. You can heal, and still fall back. You can grow, and still slip into old habits. You can move forward, and still get tempted by what used to feel familiar because it’s all you’ve ever known.  Freedom is the moment you decide to change for better.  Discipline is every moment after that following the change. Discipline looks like: Blocki...